Do you feel alone in your relationship?

You have same arguments with your partner over and over again, and you feel unheard and alone in your relationship. You and your partner both become angry and defensive in arguments and no one feels validated or understood. You feel stuck not knowing how else you can communicate your feelings to be understood and see positive changes in your relationship. You feel emotional distance from your partner and almost alone in your relationship. You wonder if this is because of the cultural differences you grew up in and trauma you and your partner experienced in childhoods.

In my couples therapy, I help couples who come from different cultural backgrounds including interracial couples by using culturally-informed approach to help them understand how their cultural differences and past trauma affect their relational dynamic and communications and to create new positive emotional connections in the relationship. I guide couples to felt sense of their emotions in their body and defenses that make it difficult for them to be empathetic and understanding towards each other. In order for couples to understand each other better, I gently guide each couple member express their true emotions and requests for their partner in empathetic and caring ways and avoid criticism and defensiveness. That way, our focus becomes expressing and truly feeling each other’s emotions than blaming and defending each other, which would put a couple in a unhealthy dynamic where no one feels validated and understood. Then I help couples explore what each partner would like to feel and experience in their relationship instead and what they can do for each other. The couples that I have worked with have been able to identify negative patterns of communications and dynamics and start experiencing more appreciation towards and deeper emotional connections with each other that they had never experienced before.

If you are ready to create new communication patterns and deeper connections with your partner, I invite you to reach out to schedule a consultation today to discover how couples therapy with the right therapist can help your relationship thrive.