If you are here hoping to find some support to heal from your endless anxiety and self-criticism, I am here to help you.

No matter how much you accomplish, you can’t feel you’re good enough. You consider yourself a high-achiever, having a high-paying successful career, a long-term partner, and good friends, but you still don’t feel you have what you want in your life, especially in romantic relationships. You constantly criticize yourself and try to improve yourself to be a different person than who you are, and it’s been really exhausting to keep trying harder. 

Although you’ve been with your partner for a long time and you love many parts of your partner, you argue with your partner often and you feel you are not on the same page with your partner on some values and future plans. Instead of feeling understood, supported and accepted by your partner, you are feeling incompetent, inferior, and alone in your relationship. Now you’re not sure if you’re with the right person to spend your future with. 

You wonder if your difficult relationships with your parents and childhood trauma have some impacts on your romantic relationships struggles. Your feelings have been constantly dismissed, criticized and ignored by your parents from a young age, and you never feel you’re good enough for them no matter how much you have accomplished. You feel guilty to keep boundaries with your parents and it’s hard for you to prioritize your feelings and needs.

To overcome those struggles, you’ve tried therapy before but it didn’t really change how you feel, so this time you want to get more support to dig deeper into your childhood and its impact on your insecurity and learn how to value yourself without self-criticism. You know your self-criticism doesn’t help building your confidence and acceptance, so you’d like some help developing more self-compassion and healthier relationships with yourself.

I help many high-achievers in their 20’s to 40’s who are successful in many aspects of their life but struggle with their insecurity and self-criticism, especially in relationships, to accept themselves with more confidence, and to experience more fulfilling relationships and life. In our sessions together, you will not only build insights into the root cause of your insecurity and self-criticism affecting your relationships, but will also experience deeper emotions that you’ve never been able to reach on your own. These new emotional experiences in sessions will help you develop a strong confidence, self-compassion, and sense of trust in your true-self that have been buried underneath your insecurity.

Many of my clients' insecurity and self-criticism stem from their difficult childhoods with complex trauma, and my work is guided by a trauma-informed approach in a gentle, kind, relational manner. Over their time in therapy, many of my clients experience a significant growth in identifying their own triggers for insecurity and unhelpful reaction patterns and coping with them in healthier ways. It also gets easier for them to validate, prioritize, and communicate their own feelings and needs to set boundaries with other people without worrying about other people’s judgements and expectations. 

If you’re ready to overcome your insecurity and to fully enjoy your true-self and a life that you want, I welcome you to reach out for a free 15-minute video consultation. You don’t have to struggle alone any more. Let’s discuss how we can work towards reclaiming your true-self without insecurity and nurturing your confidence and self-compassion.